How To Identify a Karmic Relationship
How To Identify a Karmic Relationship
If you have ever experienced a bond that feels like a magnetic connection, but with a turbulent twist, you are not alone. Karmic relationships are filled with passion and pain, often at the same time.
While the phrase “karmic relationship” is not a clinical term, the characteristics do resemble other, well-known relationships.
A karmic relationship is one that is filled with all-consuming passion but is extremely difficult to maintain. These relationships are not meant to last, but they are learning experiences for those who have them.
While “karmic relationship” can have a negative connotation, it can be also be viewed from the perspective of personal growth. They are opportunities to learn something about yourself that you never knew before, as well as the most significant life lessons in love.
To get a better idea of what a karmic relationship is, how it manifests, and what you can do to walk away from one, read on to see what the experts have to say.
How this type of relationship may manifest
There is a good chance you will be in the thick of it before you even realize you are in a karmic relationship. With its pattern of breakups and reunions, it is a relationship that both partners seem unable to resist.
It grips both partners tightly, and despite the damage done to both, they do not seem to be able to let go of each other, even though everybody around them is telling them to end it.
There is usually an instant connection in a karmic relationship, and for some inexplicable reason, you feel magnetically drawn to the other person and like you cannot live without them.
You also feel destined to be with the other person and cannot understand why it is not working out, because this person feels perfect for you. This makes it very difficult to see your partner’s flaws.
Moreover, a karmic relationship is not exclusive to a romantic partner. You can also experience this type of connection within your family of origin, with a friend, or a brief encounter.
Signs of a karmic relationship
Identifying a karmic relationship is tricky, especially when you are caught up in one.
Besides the characteristics described above, there are some signs and red flags that may indicate you are experiencing a karmic connection.
Roller coaster of emotions
One of the most common signs of a karmic relationship is the roller coaster of emotions. This typically follows a pattern of happiness one day but misery the next.
If you are in a karmic tie, it often feels like any minor argument or bump in the road is the end of the world.
All relationships have their ups and downs, but in a karmic relationship, rough patches feel like a pervasive weight on your chest.
Resembles a co-dependent relationship
Karmic relationships often do resemble co-dependent relationships because they create dependency, which ends up consuming all your thoughts and feelings.
You might also feel “addicted” or “dependent” on the relationship, making it very difficult for you or the other person to break it off. Even with alarm bells ringing in your head, you cannot resist staying.
One-sided relationship
Karmic relationships are often toxic and one-sided. Then one can lead to one person being self-serving and the other doing everything in their power to keep them happy.
Fearful of how it will end
Sometimes it is easier to deal with an unhealthy relationship than face what may happen once it is over. Someone in a karmic relationship is often fearful of what will happen or who they will turn into once it ends.
Purpose of a karmic relationship
The ideology behind a karmic matchup is twofold: to break the cycles of bad behaviour from past lifetimes and to learn how to heal.
At the core of all of this, the purpose of karmic relationships is to learn and grow.
Some people believe karmic relationships are agreements between two spirits to help the other grow before incarnating on Earth, with the sole purpose of learning something we were not able to in a previous lifetime.
With that in mind, karmic relationships are very different from other intense relationships, such as one with a soulmate.
People often confuse karmic partners with soulmates, and they are not the same.
Karmic relationships teach you about the world and others, whereas your soulmates help you learn your self-worth.
You feel good, balanced, and happy in a soulmate relationship. But in a karmic relationship you will always feel like something is just not right.
The purpose of a karmic relationship is to advance the soul forward in this lifetime. It is believed that the most important thing to know about karmic relationships is that you (your soul) have chosen to learn this lesson for its advancement toward knowing, enlightenment, and understanding.
Although the lesson you learn in your karmic relationship may be difficult, and it may cause you great pain in the short-term, as it develops your soul and moves you toward greater peace.
But you must also remember that your soul provides karmic experiences for others that you may be unaware of, and sometimes you receive the lesson, and sometimes you give the soul lesson.
How to walk away
Walking away from an unhealthy relationship can be difficult — especially if you are leaving because the partnership is abusive, co-dependent, or just is not serving you anymore.
And ending a relationship, especially a karmic one, is far from easy.
Significant strength is required to break away from the kind of intense connection that exists in the victim/victimizer and co-dependent dynamic.
Even though such cycles are destructive, Aaron says the partners feel comfortable due to growing up with a distorted definition of love and self-value.
Because of this, support is a vital factor in making the transition.
The best way to move on from these kinds of situations is to recognize the lesson from it.
Her advice? Focus on you, your self-worth, and your self-respect.
If your relationship does not seem to prosper without you at your best self, you should act on it.
Remember, these relationships are born out of conflict and will most likely end in conflict. They are toxic and unhealthy.
Allow yourself time to be alone and grow from the experience. If you rush too quickly into another romance and you will likely fall into the same karmic patterns.
When you cut the cord and learn your lesson, you break free from the karmic bond forever.
The good news is you have already experienced the hardships of the relationship and now it is time to learn from your mistakes.
Try not to draw this from a place of anger or blame, but instead, take full responsibility for your actions and your role in the relationship to restore balance in your life.
Tips for healthy communication
Creating a safe space for honest conversation is a critical component of a healthy relationship.
Healthy communication is both positive and assertive. It expresses personal experience, desires, wishes, and concerns.
Effective communication focuses on positive changes and outcomes instead of negative expressions that use judgment, criticism, and blame.
Also, healthy communication is empowering as it clearly defines the way forward and expresses conviction in achieving it.
Part of healthy communication is the ability to recognize nonverbal cues. We often say more with our body language than we do with our words.
That is why it is important to pay attention to nonverbal cues and to read your partner’s body language while also being aware of your own.
It is best to keep neutral body language and eye contact when having an honest conversation with your friends, family, and partner.
And finally, building a relationship based on healthy communication requires each partner to really listen to what the other has to say.
To do this effectively, you need to quiet your mind and resist the urge to plan what you are going to say next while the other person is talking.
The bottom line
Whether it is a romantic relationship or a relationship with a friend or family member, experiencing a karmic connection with another person is something you will never forget.
In fact, the lessons you learn from these passionate yet volatile relationships are what helps propel you forward as you enter into new partnerships.
That said, if you are being mistreated, or you ae unsure of how to escape an unhealthy relationship, it is critical that you reach out and ask for help.
Talk to a trusted friend or a family member, or make an appointment with a therapist.
**** Written for Meridian Counseling by Trishna Patnaik, a BSc (in Life Sciences) and MBA (in Marketing) by qualification but an artist by choice. A self-taught artist based in Mumbai, Trishna has been practicing art for over 14 years. After she had a professional stint in various reputed corporates, she realized that she wanted to do something more meaningful. She found her true calling in her passion that is painting. Trishna is now a full-time professional painter pursuing her passion to create and explore to the fullest. She says, “It’s a road less traveled but a journey that I look forward to every day.” Trishna also conducts painting workshops across Mumbai and other metropolitan cities of India. Trishna is an art therapist and healer. She works with clients on a one on one basis in Mumbai. Trishna fancies the art of creative writing and is dappling her hands in that too, to soak in the experience and have an engagement with readers, wanderers, and thinkers.